I got to Experience my CNC Schoolgirl Fantasy! It was soooo hot!
Ok, so most of you have probably seen the photos by now… but I wanted to do a writing to share how it felt to explore middlespace for the first time. This roleplay went a fair bit deeper than what most people assume when they think of a “school girl” fantasy, so here is some of what I learned…
What Kind of Submissive Are You?
The term “submissive” is an umbrella that covers many different roles within kink. To help you navigate, I’ll outline some of the most common types of submissives, so you can see what resonates with you. This list is by no means exhaustive—kink is a vast and nuanced world, and your sexuality is as unique as you are. As you explore, pay attention to what excites you, what doesn’t appeal, and what piques your curiosity. These insights will guide you in discovering more about your sexuality and the types of play you might enjoy.
The Catharsis of CNC
When I posted photos of a recent CNC photoshoot on Fetlife last night, it felt like I was sharing a very intimate part of myself. It’s a side of me that very few people get to see, so it was surprisingly wholesome to share those photos and receive such supportive responses from my fellow Fetlifers. You guys are the best! 😊
Why anxiety makes you an expert in ignoring your boundaries…
I’ve been thinking a lot about boundaries lately – in particular how I can better at protecting them.
The tricky thing about boundaries is they’re not usually fixed. They often move around depending on the context (how you’re feeling that day, who you’re playing with etc). An obvious example for me is, some days I’m totally up for being caned, and other days a cane is too much. That boundary changes regularly.
Is Anti-Drama Culture in Kink Doing Us Harm?
This week’s podcast was the hardest I’ve ever recorded. It’s easy to share the positive aspects of kink—the great experiences and the joys of exploration. What’s hard is sharing the negative experiences. It would have been much easier to keep this private, but my podcast is about sharing my kink journey openly and honestly. I can’t do that if I’m only highlighting the good parts.
Are Open Relationships Less Committed?
One of the biggest misconceptions about open relationships is that they aren’t as committed as their monogamous counterparts. This is because people tend to confuse “commitment” and “monogamy.”
Vetting Questions I’m Using in 2024
If you are wanting 2024 to be a year of exciting kinky experiences (come on gangbang 🤞🏻) it’s likely you might need to do some vetting.
Personally, my vetting process could use an update! I did some research and found 10 questions I will be using this year to vet potential new play partners. (For the full list, listen to this week’s podcast)
My first water bondage scene! 💧
So last week I got tied up in ropes in my friend’s pool. I had my arms, wrists and legs tied, so I could not swim at all… the experience was amazing, but not at all what I expected!
What is “kinky” anyway?
I recently learned a framework in my studies that really challenged the way I feel about kink, and what is considered to be “kinky.” This framework is called the 3 Dimensions of Sex, and it basically tells us that there are 3 distinct types of sex that humans enjoy. All of which are common, healthy and as normal as one another. The 3 dimensions are Partner Engagement, Trance and Roleplay.
You’re so perfect, I’m so proud of you! (did I just turn you on?)
You are such a good girl / boy. Well done for clicking on this writing. I’m so proud of you for being curious, and wanting to learn more about this kink! 😛
Praise kink has been blowing up on TikTok lately… and before you roll your eyes, I actually think it is great whenever kink is being shared in a positive way on mainstream social media!
